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  • The Best Decision I Ever Made After Age 40

    The Life Changing Decision I Made After Turning 40

    The best decision I ever made after age 40 changed my entire life. Lord, I wish I would have had the self-awareness to see the NEED to make this change decades earlier, but that’s life. Better late than never right. The best decision I ever made after age 40 was so impactful, it’s a change I recommend to EVERY WOMAN I COACH because — I truly believe that the majority of women can benefit from doing the same. So what IS this best decision I ever made after age 40 anyway? It was the decision I made to STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF ME. To stop seeking everyone’s approval of my decisions, my actions, my behavior and my LIFE. Nothing has been more life changing than this practice- and it IS indeed a practice– you have to PRACTICE THIS approach, day in and day out- but it’s so worth reminding yourself to stay on track with. It will forever change your life for the better, trust me.

    I never heard the phrase “people pleaser” until my friend Amy recommended I read a book called What Color is Your Personality by Carol Ritberger. I strongly urge you to buy this book and read it. It opened my eyes and changed how I saw myself forever. 

    After understanding what a people pleaser was and realizing I had been one my entire adult life, that’s when I knew I had to let go of this person. Ironically, this was also just around the time that I was going through a major disruption in my business life…..things were crumbling down all around me as I discovered people and vendors who had worked for me had let me down and taken advantage of me and betrayed me in every way. 

    I hadn’t seen it. I didn’t choose to see it because I was too busy trying to keep everyone happy trying to be everyone’s best friend, trying to win everyone’s approval. I was not the boss and CEO I should have been and as such, I got walked all over by people who worked for me. I got taken advantage of by family members, by some crazy con-artists who weaseled their way into my company under the guise of “expert management consultants” (who were really broke compulsive liars who were known to do this to multiple companies across town), by vendors, you name it! When I think back on the decades of my adult life and how I lived as if I was an EMPLOYEE of other people as if I HAD TO DO WHAT THEY SAID, as if I had to take their constructive (unsolicited) advice and apply it (because if I didn’t, that would be horribly awfully rude right??)– I feel faint. 

    Here I was a grown woman living as if I could not speak with my own voice. Once I hired a business coach, she – in our first consultation session, said the best thing to me. She said, “Kelly I think it’s about time you start driving the bus in your life”. Incidentally– this is her published book and I cannot recommend it enough, she changed my life with her coaching, she is exceptional. CLICK HERE to buy on Amazon. (It’s called “Who’s Driving Your Bus?” LOL). 

    That moment, I can’t exactly recall when it was precisely, but when I started choosing to STOP CARING what other people think of me to stop asking for permission, to stop seeking approval, even from GOD FORBID, my parents, YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED– my relationships with a lot of people actually improved!! You think when you start to put your foot down and stand up for yourself and stop taking s**t that you’ll push everyone away but it’s not always the case— I found that in many cases there was a new found respect between the 2 parties. Now in many cases, I chose to end relationships that were toxic or not serving me – and that’s a good thing. Learn to be OK with that. It doesn’t make you a ‘BAD PERSON”– THAT will be a whole other blog post coming up to follow up on this one. For now, let’s start with you OWNING who you are, owning your decisions, not asking for advice on everything and not worrying about what your family or people on social media or people at church think about you. BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU. Wear what you want. Don’t second guess it. Don’t ever ever ever think “maybe I shouldn’t…..”— who said you SHOULDN’T– ignore those thoughts. Embrace YOU because there is only one of you sister and she’s damn amazing. I want you to tell yourself that every damn day. Watch what happens. 

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  • MY TOP 10 DAILY HABITS FOR WEIGHT LOSS

    What are my best daily habits for weight loss?

    Top 10 New Habits For Weight Loss

    Are you in the process of trying to lose weight? If you want to discover the best habits for weight loss, I’ve got you covered. In this post, I’m sharing my top 10 best daily habits for weight loss. Many of these habits for weight loss are NEW habits that I’ve incorporated over the past 11 months while losing 36 inches and 30lbs going keto. So, as you can imagine, these habits for weight loss that I’m recommending…well they work. Test them out yourself and see if these habits for weight loss work in your life as well. I believe they will. Remember, you are just ONE change away from a better tomorrow and an even better future. START NOW!

    My Top 10 New Daily Habits For Weight Loss

    These new habits for weight loss are in no particular order, but I’m going to start with one I do think is very important. 1) STOP OBSESSING over details that don’t matter. For years I like the woman in the photo above, obsessed over DUMB IRRELEVANT details….like “Does this extra tablespoon of almond milk in my coffee break my fast?”– doesn’t matter. Or “OMG my trainer said he thinks diet soda is bad…does that mean all this time I’ve been ruining my efforts because I’ve been drinking soda???”– stop worrying about EVERY DETAIL…..trust your instinct more. Common sense quite often is a far better gauge than all the conflicting information online trust me. I still recall how one time a follower recently on instagram started somewhat arguing with me about how bad green tea was for me because of flouride in it…..because HER nutritionist said she shouldn’t take it…so therefore it must be bad for everyone. Me, 2 years ago, would have freaked out and stopped drinking green tea. Not anymore. Don’t sweat the small stuff. The STRESS you give your brain far outweighs the actual damage from most things I have learned. 2) Supplements: I am now religious about taking my vitamins and supplements. You may want to watch this video where I talk about what supplements I take daily but I have learned over time that — supplements WORK – in a big way– if you take them regularly. They are worth the money if you can budget for it and they can change your health. Don’t be stupid and think everything is “snake oil”. Nothing is a miracle in a bottle but – supplements work. 3) Exogenous Ketones: I just recorded a video review on this today, will link it up tomorrow for you but taking exogenous ketones have CHANGED MY LIFE– they have improved my energy in an astonishing manner: previously I was having to take a nap every day at 2pm like clockwork. Not anymore. Further and more importantly- they curb my appetite and quash my cravings like you cannot imagine!! My whole eating style has changed because of them. You can order ketones from me directly and I PROMISE YOU–your health and weight loss and life will be forever changed. Happy to answer questions for you as well. 4) Going Keto: Without question, I recommend the keto lifestyle for women over 40 with any kind of hormonal issues/insulin resistance like me. It’s game changing. CLICK HERE to learn more. 5) BHRT/Hormone balance: If you are 40+ and not getting bloodwork done and getting your hormones balanced, you are fighting an uphill battle my friend. Get a functional medicine doctor and start with some comprehensive blood-work at Ulta Lab Tests. Happy to help you with some recommendations. 6) Water. I know this sounds soooo typical but –  I have been SO BAD about hydration and recently I ended up with a UTI. OMG who wants one of those!?! It made me see how bad I have been about hydration. Hydration is sooo key to everything…..I’m now more focused on it than ever……with my ketones + green tea plus plain water consumption. It’s a priority! 7) No Snacking: This is a weight loss gamechanger. Ever since adding in ketones….I don’t snack, or VERY RARELY. I eat 2 meals a day that’s it and it makes it easy to stay in a reasonable calorie window. 8)  Diversity in diet: I’m guilty in the past in a big way of having zero diversity in my diet- eating the same dang thing every day for lunch– you’ll see in my new keto cookbook a TON of diversity– I’ll be updating this one soon– and I am making diversity in my meals a primary focus– the more you can vary what you eat the better, just like varying your workouts– it does a body good and keeps your palate interested as well! I truly believe one of the #1 reasons people quit diets is because of lack of diversity in what they are eating. Get creative! 9) Eating out: when Steve and I eat out, we RARELY both will order a meal. We share meals all the time– it’s crazy how huge the portion sizes are– even the side orders! Start doing this– you’ll save money too! 10) Fasting/Intermittent Fasting: I do intermittent fasting daily and just started adding 1 -2 24 hour fasts into my week. Intermittent fasting plus keto is a dream weight loss combo and it’s what I recommend for all my clients who I coach– it works, every woman I have coached who uses it has lost 25LBS or more so far. Adding in a 24 hour fast is even more beneficial for resetting your body and helping encourage it to better lose fat in the future. 

    BUT WAIT THERE'S MORE!

    BUT WAIT THERE'S MORE

    Did you enjoy this post? I hope it was helpful. I think you might find these posts below helpful as well. VIDEO: Why you aren’t losing weight on the Keto Diet: CLICK HERE.  VIDEO: Does Keto Work For Women Over 40? CLICK HERE. What Can I Eat On KETO? CLICK HERE. Download my FREE Keto Kwik Start Guide– CLICK HERE. And while you are here, check out my BRAND NEW KETO COOKBOOK filled with 50+ low-carb recipes that helped me lose 36 inches and 30lbs!! CLICK HERE to learn more and snag a copy for just $27! 

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  • Top 10 Tips For a New Puppy!

    My Best Tips For Your New Puppy!

    Tips for a New Puppy

    If you are a new puppy owner or thinking about getting a puppy, you are probably looking for helpful tips for a new puppy– and trust me, you’ll NEED them! Even though I grew up with dogs in our home, as an adult, I never raised a dog myself, I always was a cat mom. Let me just share with you that cats/kittens are 1000000000000x easier to raise than dogs. Oh wow. You don’t need any helpful kitten tips other than to buy a litter box. But for sure, you need tips for a new puppy and lots of them, believe me. I thought I was prepared for having a new puppy in the house- I wasn’t. I thought I had my expectations set– I did not. But, thanks to many friends and followers and neighbors and their recommendations, I can share a lot of helpful tips for a new puppy with YOU that will serve to make your life with a new puppy a lot more enjoyable! Read on and learn!

    Please note that a lot of these tips I’m going to share are NOT in any particular order of importance. Just know that in my experience, these are all EQUALLY EFFECTIVE, and thus, equally important, so — I’d recommend you do them all! LOL. The picture above shows a dog with a pretty light leash on and there is this thing I learned from a GREAT training lady online (You’ll want to subscribe to this channel on YouTube– CLICK HERE this woman is amazing!) that you use a “training leash” indoors. Essentially you put a long leash on your puppy indoors and then, when you need to “catch” your puppy (like to put him in the crate for bed for example) — or– catch him when he brings something god-awful in the house and won’t put it down and he wants to play hide and seek with you LOL– you can step on the leash and he won’t be able to run away. OH WOW HOW I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN ABOUT THIS!!! Our puppy was notorious for both behaviours — CLICK HERE to buy one of these training leashes– very reasonable, you can pick up several because the puppy may pee on one and then you can alternate. When we got our puppy a collar, we had heard about the air tag from Apple, so we got him the Air Tag Collar: CLICK HERE. It works! When I drop him at Doggy Day Care- my phone will notify me that I’ve “left him behind”. Very cool. On that note– DOGGY DAY CARE. If you haven’t heard of this, look it up now. Doggy Day Care is the best thing you’ve never heard of — OMG!! Dogs and Puppies LOVE IT!! It’s extremely reasonable from a cost perspective and it will tire your puppy out like you cannot imagine. When we first got our puppy– suffice it to say, my home-work life was disrupted in a HUGE WAY. Even after he was fully potty trained, we had the issue of him getting into trouble in our backyard eating sticks and sharp objects all the time……crazy!! So being able to put him in Doggy Day Care is a wonderful thing for both of us. Look up doggy day care places by you and check them out- most even offer webcam access so you can see your dog playing all day: it’s addicting! Next up is food and treats: for food we noticed that Bijan became very fond of Farmer’s Dog all natural food very quickly. We mix this with some dry kibble for each meal and he LOVES IT. For treats, my friend Michelle sent us some of these gluten free, soy free treats from Cloud Star and Bijan LOVES THEM!!! The price is fantastic too! Great flavor options as well, no wonder!! Next up are BONES — you will want to invest in some good bones because what we learned is that you do NOT want to let your puppy/dog chew on STICKS or branches from outside– that’s bad for their digestion and can ruin their teeth! The first bones we bought for him are these bad boys; CLICK HERE. The Dream Bone brand has soooo many options to choose from– your dog will love them. Then a follower of mine told me about Bully Sticks and wow I’m sooo glad I bought these: CLICK HERE. Why are the Bully Sticks so wonderful? They will keep your puppy/dog chewing on them for like 30-40 minutes!! Best yet, they are safe for their teeth! We give Bijan one of them when Steve and I want to eat dinner and not be disturbed LOL! 

    WALKS. Take your puppy for walks as much as you can. I made the mistake of not knowing this key point early on and then Bijan would have so much adrenaline at 8:30pm at night. CLICK HERE to get this dorky looking fanny pack thing– what you’ll realize is that it can be used for when you go on walks but also for when you are doing training with your puppy around the house. (Watch those YouTube videos I’m telling you, I have been able to make a lot of progress with Bijan based on what I’ve learned there it’s amazing!) Don’t laugh but I’m glad that during quarantine I bought these surgical gloves CLICK HERE BECAUSE SOMETIMES YOUR PUPPY WILL POOP A BIG POOPY MESS that trust me will not fit in the bag you have and it will get on your hands and gross you out. I make sure when I am picking up my dog’s poop it is with gloves on– judge me if you want.  CRATE: This is the Diggs crate we ordered (strongly recommend ordering from Amazon vs. Diggs directly). And this is the soft blanket we put inside: CLICK HERE. Oh and everything they say about a Snuggle Pup is true- Bijan thinks his is his best friend, you gotta get one for your dog! These are the dog tags we got customized for his collar: CLICK HERE.  And this is the dog shampoo a friend recommended and I gotta say, it really made him smell GOOD after his first shower LOL: CLICK HERE

    BUT WAIT, THERE'S MORE!

    BUT WAIT THERE'S MORE

    I hope you enjoyed this post– it’s the first time I’ve written about a more lifestyle-topic vs. a strictly health-topic focus. If you are interested in checking out some of my more recent health-focused posts- consider these: 1) The Best Makeup for Women Over 50 CLICK HERE  2) The Top 10 Keto Myths Debunked CLICK HERE 3) Healthy Gut Diet Plan CLICK HERE 4) Benefits of Magnesium for Women CLICK HERE 5) Buy my Brand New Keto Cookbook with 50+ Recipes that helped me lose 35 inches and 30lbs CLICK HERE!

     

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