• The Best Chronic Stress Treatment For Optimal Health.

    How to Keep Chronic Stress From Ruining Your Health. It CAN Be Done, Trust Me!

    Best chronic stress treatment

    If you are looking for a solution for chronic stress, or the best treatment for chronic stress, this post will give you many options to implement right away. And I’m speaking from experience. I’ve gone through some majorly stressful times in my life in recent years- in fact, probably some of the most stressful years of my entire life, and I have learned a LOT about how to weather the storms that come our way. Don’t get me wrong: by no means have I always been perfect at doing this. In fact, the very reason I’m writing this blog post is that I’ve realized I’ve recently “backslidden” (is this a word??) in my stress management and self-care and IT SHOWS. Where does it show? In my health. That’s the point of this blog….when we don’t manage our stress response- how we respond to stressful situations– our health will suffer. I’ve seen it happen time and again and we must recognize that this is a given- and choose to be proactive about it. So– please, heed my advice and read on to learn what I have learned about the best treatments for chronic stress. And don’t just READ them, put them into ACTION!

    It's Not What HAPPENS TO YOU.

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    The first thing you need to know about treating and managing your stress is this: it’s not what happens to you — it’s how you react to it. Read that again. I have learned in life this is crux of stress management and the more you UNDERSTAND THIS and that all stress management practices and new habits revolve around this- you will be so much more successful and healthy and happy in the future, trust me! I read a quote recently that said– for everything that happens to us, we can either REACT to it or RESPOND. One option is EMOTIONAL and filled with possible stress responses and one is CALM and filled with INTENTION. Hmm Think about which one is better for us. A RESPONSE requires us to STOP AND DO SOME THINKING first……whereas when we REACT immediately it’s just emotion— anger, crying, blurting out accusations, fighting, you name it……our heart rate goes up, our breath gets faster, our blood pressure goes up– it’s bad. Here is the deal. BAD STUFF IS GONNA HAPPEN. That’s life. If I can tell you to do something– BUY THIS BOOK– IT is such a simple book but reading it changed my life. ZEN AND THE ART OF HAPPINESS. In the book he talks about how we react to EVERYTHING that happens in our lives. And just this week I was observing how “wound tight” I’ve been…..I had a response from a lawyer about something I’m dealing with that I did not want to hear and I got so overwhelmingly upset about it– it was ridiculous!! I see that now! But at the time I was full of anger that was so disproportionate….and it was that very situation that made me stop and see….I’d lost my way…I’d lost my Zen….I’d lost my high vibe. (More about high vibe living in a future post) But– the key about stress management is ACCEPTANCE. Whatever happens– first things first- ACCEPT IT. Be calm about accepting it. Don’t REACT. Give yourself time to take DEEP BREATHS (THIS IS KEY (YOU’LL SEE SOME STRESS PRACTICES YOU CAN DO ANYWHERE DOWN BELOW– BUT DEEP BREATHING IS THE #1 practice!!!) and just think to yourself– why did this happen? I wonder why this is happening for me? Use that phrase FOR ME not “why is this happening TO ME”– to me makes you a victim whereas “for me” helps you start looking at things through a more positive lens. 


    chronic stress cause

    This next step was a big game-changer for me and I picked it up from Grant Cardone of all people. Too many people spend far too much time COMPLAINING ABOUT THEIR PROBLEMS and DOING NOTHING ABOUT THEM. Once you accept your problem– whatever is stressing you out– get into ACTION. I’m not suggesting it’s always going to be easy– to fix it. But, getting into activity toward doing something will get your mind off looking backward and feeling regret and feeling sad, down, angry, hurt, bitter etc. You get busy. I have spent FAR TOO MUCH TIME  on the phone talking about my problems to my parents, to my friends, and then to my parents again, to my therapist, to my boyfriend, now husband…..-the thing is– talking about your problems- we all need to vent sometimes, but venting 10x is a WASTE OF TIME and you are just re-living the pain!! Often, you get your heart rate up and your blood pressure up- how often do you talk about something and get so upset about it that you cry? I’ve often had almost a panic attack talking about some of the things that happened to me…I have PTSD now– and my PTSD causes debilitating migraines– trust me when I say I want to avoid that pain at all costs! People– avoid RE-FEEDING YOURSELF YOUR PROBLEMS as much as possible. I’m as guilty as this as the next gal and I’m working on eliminating this! It’s a horrible practice. Maybe if we call it what it really is- “eating shit”– we’d stop doing it! ;-0

    Start Living a GENUINELY POSITIVE Life.

    Dealing with stress proactively is part one of your first step toward better health. The next step is taking ownership of your life and living it on YOUR terms and leading a GENUINELY positive life. For many of us, this will be a work in progress. Some of us are not naturally optimistic– and when I say lead a positive life, this is about leading a life where we see the world we live in as wonderful and we choose to see ourselves as amazing and incredible and choose to love ourselves FIERCELY. I really encourage you to stop, pause and think about this. There is a BIG difference between “having a positive attitude” and intentionally choosing to live your life, live every day, make conscious choices every hour of every day to move your life in the direction of HAPPINESS AND JOY AND POSITIVITY. When you try to do this, your health will improve. Your stress and anxiety level will decrease. Your life will change direction. The things you want to manifest WILL come to fruition. This has indeed happened in my life. Please don’t mistake what I am saying for a Disney movie. I’m not saying “don’t worry be happy” and POOF– all your problems go away and suddenly you have no bills, you are a millionaire married to your version of Superman and you have the perfect body that never gains weight and life is grand. Nope. I’m not saying decide to be positive and lead with happiness as much as you can every day in every way and you’ll never encounter stress or deal with tough times. Nope. Not saying that. What I am saying is this: when you begin to make CONSCIOUS CHOICES across the board to respond to every situation differently– as described above– accepting things, not fighting them, asking yourself “What could be GOOD about this?”, getting into a plan of action to get to a better place and overall, living your days FOCUSED on gratitude and being happy and positive and believing for the best possible outcomes……(and I’d encourage you to read some books on these topics, I’ll link some of my favorites below. If you are new to this, like anything…..learning to think a new way is a skill and you want to be taught by those who have mastered it themselves right?)….you do this…..you will notice how each day YOU FEEL BETTER. You look forward to the next day even more than the day prior. Things will happen in your life– doors will open, opportunities will come your way, just watch. You just keep on BELIEVING and being happy and positive and grateful vs. worrying and dreading and focusing on what’s gone wrong or COULD GO WRONG or might go wrong. What you FOCUS ON grows. Spend your time and ENERGY focusing on a high vibe sunshine life- and no, I don’t care how cheesy that sounds. Try it out my friends and see if it makes you feel awful and brings bad results. I bet you $1000 it doesn’t. 

    A Little More About Stress and Your HORMONES.

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    In closing, I must bring in the topic of HORMONES! If you have been reading my blog or following me for a while you know I talk about the importance of hormonal balance after the age of 40 (for some of us it’s earlier than that)– and stress can affect our hormones in a big way– NEGATIVELY. I’ve interviewed my last functional medicine doctor on the subject of cortisol, (you can listen to that interview by CLICKING HERE). Cortisol is a hormone that is made from the mother of all hormones, pregnenolone. In her book, “The Hormone Fix“, Dr. Anna Cabeca says, “Under stress, though, the body preferentially calls on pregnenolone to make cortisol in order to handle the pressure you are experiencing. But when the pregnenolone is pressed into service to produce cortisol, very little estrogen, DHEA, and testosterone are made. Daily, unresolved stress therefore jeopardizes your normal hormone production.” (I interviewed Dr. Cabeca on the podcast– CLICK HERE to listen) Furthermore- Dr. Cabeca says (in the same book) ….”Persistent stress can also turn the natural circadian rhythm upside down causing a restless energy at night and a low during the day (wired and tired)…..low cortisol all day  creates a devastating condition ….otherwise known as adrenal fatigue.” UGH. I’ve had adrenal fatigue and it’s NO FUN. I’ve had adrenal burnout. You do not want to go there trust me! 

    Everything we are talking about in this post is SO IMPORTANT. We really (and I am preaching to myself here ladies just as much as I am “teaching” you, trust me) need to make our HEALTH and SELF-CARE a priority. We have to stop running ourselves into the ground with workaholism and/or working out too hard to try to achieve the impossible body ideal. (I’ve been there done that for too many years!!!) We have to step outside of our overtaxed minds and start treating ourselves like we are our own “patient” in our own special healthcare or spa treatment center. 

    Don’t laugh– just use that as an analogy- think about if your best best best friend showed up at your house on death’s door– TOTALLY burned out, fried, dehydrated, looking like they hadn’t slept a good night in months, looking underweight, weak, almost emaciated– sickly etc. You’d be WORRIED right? You’d want to help them GET WELL! You’d want to rush them in to your house and take care of them, nourish them, nurse them back to better health. You wouldn’t yell at them for how or why they got into that state of disrepair– you’d simply focus on being kind and gracious and HELPING THEM. 

    This is what I’m talking about what we need to do with ourselves– treat ourselves like we are our own PATIENT. We must HEAL OURSELVES, TREAT ourselves, and get ourselves back to a better place. You know– I was telling my assistant just this morning– I felt like I had my own intervention this week- on this very topic. Because I had the awareness of how much I’d backslidden in my mindset. How much I’d been focused on the negatives in my life. How much venting I’d been doing. How much I’d been distracted, angry, upset, unable to be as productive at my work as is typical……how over-reactive I’d been when I’d been upset about things…..I’d been MARINATING in the negative vs. FOCUSING on where I wanted to be. This was the polar opposite of who I normally am. 

    Truth is, I have “excuses” for some of this. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD and I’m dealing with some heavy stuff in my personal world but I stand by what I just wrote…..the day to day choices I started to make—it can happen to anyone- it just starts to snowball and one negative gripe becomes another and soon you are noticing all the negative in your life vs. the positive and soon you are stressed and wound tight vs. happy and full of belief and unstoppable energy and balance…..what you feed, grows. I’m so grateful for the awareness/epiphany I had this week and the breakthrough of seeing this because now I have the opportunity once again to lead by example. I can show you what happens in my life when I bring back the right way of living– with daily intentional joy and belief and gratitude. Stay tuned, because you’re going to be blown away by what you witness!! 


    Just as I am getting ready to hit publish on this blog, I get a notification from one of my favorite people Michelle Cunningham, I’ve only bought like 70 of her online courses– and she sent out a newsletter saying watch this video about getting unstuck……so I click on it and am listening while I’m putting the final touches to this post. Do you know what she says at the beginning of the video??? OMG– SIGN FROM GOD!! “We must focus on ourselves FIRST. If we don’t put ourselves first, we are operating from an empty cup”– LADIES, WE’VE ALL HEARD THAT SAYING, YOU CAN’T POUR FROM AN EMPTY GLASS. You can’t serve others if you are depleted! She says you must start you day doing something that makes you feel crazy powerful and filled up and excited and and amped and happy– YOUR CUP IS FULL. YOU ARE HAPPY. YOU ARE FULL OF JOY– see a theme here? It’s a sign. 😉


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  • Got Perimenopause? Need to Lose Weight?

    Losing Weight In Perimenopause

    losing weight in perimenopause

    Are you in perimenopause and need to lose weight? Or, do you suspect that you are entering into perimenopause and you need to lose weight, and want to know how? I feel you, and I have been there. Although, like most of you, I did not know at the time that I was in perimenopause, and I think this is true of a LOT of women. Many women are entering into perimenopause and need to lose weight but they don’t recognize or even consider the time of life that they are in and so they put their blinders on and only think about the weight loss problem as a fitness/diet problem. Nothing could be more WRONG as far as the approach to take at this time in your life ladies, trust me. The more you ignore your HORMONES and limit your thinking to diet and exercise, the more you set yourself up to fail. In this post, I’ll share with you my experience in figuring out hormonal balance and how I ultimately was able to lose weight during menopause– and hopefully my situation and this post can save you some time and trial and error! 

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    My body first began to change (I now know it was my hormones changing, but I didn’t at the time) back in 2007 when I was about 38 years old going through a divorce (great timing!). The symptoms I noticed at first were skin bumps- rock hard skin bumps all over my neck, arms, back and chest (I’ll cover this in another post where I talk about Spironolactone and other bad drugs you should never go on and how adult hormonal acne is often misdiagnosed. You can watch this video I recorded here in the mean time to learn more) then I started having problems falling asleep so I had to take Excedrin PM every night to fall asleep then my body temp changed– I’d notice my armpits would be sweaty whereas never before in my life had I had dampness under my arms (eww). Then I gained weight after not changing my diet and still working out. In fact my trainer at time asked if I was pregnant because my boobs got very big and swollen. (estrogen). ALL THESE SYMPTOMS HAPPENED but I only paid attention to the weight gain. Go figure. This is what women do! The common symptoms of hormonal imbalance (which will happen in perimenopause) are (including but not limited to): acne/skin problems, body temperature changes, night sweats, hot flashes, headaches/migraines, mood swings, irritability, vaginal dryness, lack of libido, excessive bleeding with periods (I had this too), weight gain, inability to lose weight without changing diet/exercise, insomnia, brain fog, hair loss, and more. But again, many many many women will experience a LOT or all of these symptoms and still 1) not pursue seeing a specialist and 2) will only focus in on the weight gain and 3) will blame themselves for the weight gain without ever considering hormones’ part in the weight gain. 

    The Part Hormones Play in Weight Gain

    perimenopause sudden weight gain

    Ladies, let me save you some time. Please understand, yes, there are a few unicorns out there who can breeze through perimenopause and menopause unscathed and not gain weight and not get hot flashes and not have anyyyyy issues with hormones. Those unicorns should be banished to another planet in my opinion. Most of us will have hormones go haywire in some way and NEED to have them addressed. I’m also not going to sugar-coat this for you. Getting your hormones balanced is 1) not SIMPLE– it is unique to each one of us. 2) it’s not cheap. Don’t get me wrong — it’s not OUTRAGEOUSLY expensive. I remember when I started reading all of Suzanne Somers’ books, I guessed that bio-identical hormones would cost thousands of dollars a month. No. I currently pay about $425/month for all my bio-identical hormonal treatment and then I get bloodwork done about 2-3x a year- COMPREHENSIVE bloodwork done and — I can save you a LOT OF MONEY by having you use my friends at ULTA LAB TESTS. You simply pre-order your bloodwork, pre-pay– and trust me, you will save upwards of 75%– and the blood-work is done via Quest Labs anyway– the best bloodwork providers. So my recommendation is that you get bloodwork done via ULTA LABS then take those labs to a qualified FUNCTIONAL MEDICINE DOCTOR (the great thing is you can see a doctor anywhere in the US now due to telemedicine!! I recommend my doctor– Dr. Ruthie Harper– she is amazing and a life changer and is taking new patients currently) and have them interpret the results and prescribe bio-identicals for you. Sadly, insurance won’t cover bio-identicals because big pharma can’t come in and make money off it so there’s that……but who knows what the future holds. For me, it’s worth every dime and if you are financially strapped and want to talk to me about how to earn an extra $500 a month — girl I got you. You know I’m all about helping women make extra streams of money, what could be a better motivation than your future health and longevity– and I’m telling you, bio-identicals will change your body and health FOREVER. 

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    Now, with regard to diet and exercise. The mistakes that most women make are this: they OVER-DIET and OVER-TRAIN. I did both for years. Here is what you need to know. When your hormones are changing, the last thing you need to be doing is treating your body and yourself like a workhorse….and when you over-train and over-diet, that is what you are doing. Your body will inevitably fight back with elevated cortisoladrenal fatiguehypothyroidism, and overall just more extremely unbalanced hormones. THE BEST thing you can be doing is seeing a specialist to address your hormones– ALL OF THEM. (The reason I capitalize all of them– is because what happens to a lot of women is they’ll seek help from their OB/GYN or their Primary Care doc or an endocrinologist and they’ll be prescribed ONLY progesterone or ONLY estrogen or ONLY synthroid (which is a synthetic version of thyroid medicine, not ideal vs. naturethroid which is a non-synthetic) — when you understand hormones, you know that hormonal imbalance needs to address ALL YOUR HORMONES not just one.) The 2nd best thing to know is that if you are struggling to lose weight, and you are dietings and working out- it’s PROBABLE that you are dealing with insulin resistance and as such, a lower-carb/keto approach to eating is going to be beneficial for you. As stated above– I’d be remiss if I told you that just going keto alone will suffice. I strongly recommend getting the hormones checked as a foundation–or you could start keto and then get started with good hormones doctor but just know – you have to have a plan in place to address hormones. I can help yo in all areas– 1) You could start with my Keto Cookbook to start making some lower carb meals to start out dipping your toe in the water. 2) I also have an Online Keto Bootcamp that is a self-paced video taught school that is me teaching you how to do keto the way I did- -and I lost 36 inches and 30lbs last year after being stuck for years (with hormonal imbalance and insulin resistance and not being able to figure out all the things that you are probably frustrated with!)– my school is just $99 and it gets you lifetime access to the videos and the FB Group where you get to ask questions about anything at anytime! CLICK HERE. 3) I did state above that if you desire to get bio-identical treatment and the idea of adding a $500-ish plan each month is not doable with your budget and you’d like to just listen and learn about what the heck I’m referring to with earning an extra $500-$1000 a month in additional income (sure you could earn more if you hustle) reach out to me at kelly@kellyolexa.com and we’ll set up a call– 10-15 minutes and if you like what you hear, cool, if not -no worries. 

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    Let me summarize a few things — and just know I’ll be sharing a lot more posts on these topics and going into more detail so let me know what your questions are. 1) We don’t need to give up on our fitness game just because it’s perimenopause time. HELL NAW. In fact, I’m just so you know — I’m actually past menopause and done with it but I’m just getting started with a new program (I’m doing 30-Day Breakaway with Beachbody right now loving it– it’s running and strength training)– but I’m learning that strength training – heavy training is more important than ever– and cardio is ideal — HIIT is the best!! So it’s all about the KIND Of workouts we do and 2) With food- it’s all about FUELING OUR BODY vs. starving ourselves like we used to think we needed to when we were younger. And understanding insulin resistance and glucose spikes — that is a huge help with deciding how to eat. Get this book: CLICK HERE. 3) You MUST GET YOUR HORMONES BALANCED by a professional! I’d recommend my doctor she can change your life. 4) You have to get comprehensive blood-work done: get ULTA LAB TESTS and if you want to see my lab-work so you can order what I get done every quarter I’m happy to share. Just email me kelly@kellyolexa.com. 5) If blood-work and BHRT sounds cost-prohibitive to you, let’s set up a time to talk because YOU CAN easily earn an extra $500 a month or more and pay for that and YOU DESERVE IT- it’s life changing treatment!! What questions do you have about bio-identical hormones or perimenopause or losing weight at this phase of life???

    But Wait, There's MORE!

    But Wait There's More

    If you liked what I’m throwing down in this blog, you’ll probably want to check out these posts and podcasts and videos: VIDEO: Insulin Resistance and Weight Loss: CLICK HERE. VIDEO: Why You Should Count Carbs Instead of Calories: CLICK HERE. My Keto Weight Loss Transformation: CLICK HERENext up- grab my FREE Keto Kwik Start eBook


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    What are my best daily habits for weight loss?

    Top 10 New Habits For Weight Loss

    Are you in the process of trying to lose weight? If you want to discover the best habits for weight loss, I’ve got you covered. In this post, I’m sharing my top 10 best daily habits for weight loss. Many of these habits for weight loss are NEW habits that I’ve incorporated over the past 11 months while losing 36 inches and 30lbs going keto. So, as you can imagine, these habits for weight loss that I’m recommending…well they work. Test them out yourself and see if these habits for weight loss work in your life as well. I believe they will. Remember, you are just ONE change away from a better tomorrow and an even better future. START NOW!

    My Top 10 New Daily Habits For Weight Loss

    These new habits for weight loss are in no particular order, but I’m going to start with one I do think is very important. 1) STOP OBSESSING over details that don’t matter. For years I like the woman in the photo above, obsessed over DUMB IRRELEVANT details….like “Does this extra tablespoon of almond milk in my coffee break my fast?”– doesn’t matter. Or “OMG my trainer said he thinks diet soda is bad…does that mean all this time I’ve been ruining my efforts because I’ve been drinking soda???”– stop worrying about EVERY DETAIL…..trust your instinct more. Common sense quite often is a far better gauge than all the conflicting information online trust me. I still recall how one time a follower recently on instagram started somewhat arguing with me about how bad green tea was for me because of flouride in it…..because HER nutritionist said she shouldn’t take it…so therefore it must be bad for everyone. Me, 2 years ago, would have freaked out and stopped drinking green tea. Not anymore. Don’t sweat the small stuff. The STRESS you give your brain far outweighs the actual damage from most things I have learned. 2) Supplements: I am now religious about taking my vitamins and supplements. You may want to watch this video where I talk about what supplements I take daily but I have learned over time that — supplements WORK – in a big way– if you take them regularly. They are worth the money if you can budget for it and they can change your health. Don’t be stupid and think everything is “snake oil”. Nothing is a miracle in a bottle but – supplements work. 3) Exogenous Ketones: I just recorded a video review on this today, will link it up tomorrow for you but taking exogenous ketones have CHANGED MY LIFE– they have improved my energy in an astonishing manner: previously I was having to take a nap every day at 2pm like clockwork. Not anymore. Further and more importantly- they curb my appetite and quash my cravings like you cannot imagine!! My whole eating style has changed because of them. You can order ketones from me directly and I PROMISE YOU–your health and weight loss and life will be forever changed. Happy to answer questions for you as well. 4) Going Keto: Without question, I recommend the keto lifestyle for women over 40 with any kind of hormonal issues/insulin resistance like me. It’s game changing. CLICK HERE to learn more. 5) BHRT/Hormone balance: If you are 40+ and not getting bloodwork done and getting your hormones balanced, you are fighting an uphill battle my friend. Get a functional medicine doctor and start with some comprehensive blood-work at Ulta Lab Tests. Happy to help you with some recommendations. 6) Water. I know this sounds soooo typical but –  I have been SO BAD about hydration and recently I ended up with a UTI. OMG who wants one of those!?! It made me see how bad I have been about hydration. Hydration is sooo key to everything…..I’m now more focused on it than ever……with my ketones + green tea plus plain water consumption. It’s a priority! 7) No Snacking: This is a weight loss gamechanger. Ever since adding in ketones….I don’t snack, or VERY RARELY. I eat 2 meals a day that’s it and it makes it easy to stay in a reasonable calorie window. 8)  Diversity in diet: I’m guilty in the past in a big way of having zero diversity in my diet- eating the same dang thing every day for lunch– you’ll see in my new keto cookbook a TON of diversity– I’ll be updating this one soon– and I am making diversity in my meals a primary focus– the more you can vary what you eat the better, just like varying your workouts– it does a body good and keeps your palate interested as well! I truly believe one of the #1 reasons people quit diets is because of lack of diversity in what they are eating. Get creative! 9) Eating out: when Steve and I eat out, we RARELY both will order a meal. We share meals all the time– it’s crazy how huge the portion sizes are– even the side orders! Start doing this– you’ll save money too! 10) Fasting/Intermittent Fasting: I do intermittent fasting daily and just started adding 1 -2 24 hour fasts into my week. Intermittent fasting plus keto is a dream weight loss combo and it’s what I recommend for all my clients who I coach– it works, every woman I have coached who uses it has lost 25LBS or more so far. Adding in a 24 hour fast is even more beneficial for resetting your body and helping encourage it to better lose fat in the future. 



    Did you enjoy this post? I hope it was helpful. I think you might find these posts below helpful as well. VIDEO: Why you aren’t losing weight on the Keto Diet: CLICK HERE.  VIDEO: Does Keto Work For Women Over 40? CLICK HERE. What Can I Eat On KETO? CLICK HERE. Download my FREE Keto Kwik Start Guide– CLICK HERE. And while you are here, check out my BRAND NEW KETO COOKBOOK filled with 50+ low-carb recipes that helped me lose 36 inches and 30lbs!! CLICK HERE to learn more and snag a copy for just $27!