Hey People!! What's up-- Happy New Year!! Today- well this is me today before my sweatfest and then after my sweatfest and shower (note, I will refer to this point in a minute, it matters), I shot TWO videos for you!! Oh yea!! I knew you all were wondering how you would get to sleep tonight, well guess what, there is a whole half an hour of me getting amped as ALL GET OUT about..... RESULTS ROBBERS and how to attack them and destroy them.
Are you like, WHAT...THE....HECK...IS....GOING....ON...HERE???
Bear with me, as usual, it takes me a lot of storytelling to get where I want to go.
RESULTS are what you want, in any area of life: Your job, your finances, your body, your relationships, your home, you name it. RESULTS are what I want of course. ROBBERS....in the literal sense, STEAL THINGS right? Well figuratively speaking there are things or practices or approaches that add up in our lives and become ROBBERS because they collectively ROB us of our RESULTS.
What's the good news? The good news is -- once you figure out what the ROBBERS are in your life, YOU CAN ATTACK THEM. Typically, ONLY YOU can attack them and sometimes, even if part of the ROBBERS situation is something you cannot control -- there is ALWAYS something you can do to ATTACK part of the problem.
I almost have to insist that you watch both of my ramble-on-a-thons because I HOPE you all will "GET" what I FINALLY FINALLY GOT....this year. It wasn't one day in which I finally saw the light but toward the end of this year, as I analyzed all the bad things in my life-- my workouts, my diet, my health, my stress levels, my productivity....I FINALLY SAW THINGS SO CLEARLY and they are all connected.
And now the beautiful thing is that -- because they are all connected, as I begin to CHANGE EVERYTHING....these changes will have a pretty massive effect because all these things are linked.
Let me give you an example. The above quote -- most people would say about me that I have a great positive attitude, and I work on that. I like having a positive attitude. But to be brutally honest, quite often, most days the past year, I have awakened to a feeling of absolute ANXIETY.....full of STRESS about "How will I ever get all this done? How will I reply to everything, how will I finish everything?" -- and EVERY DAY my day was RUNNING ME, I was not running my day. And my fitness goals-- ALWAYS TOOK 10TH PLACE because what was this cloud above me was MOUNTAIN ALL-YOU-HAVE-TO-DO-KELLY. Instead of me getting up thinking it would be a great day, without realizing it, I had come to the place of thinking that being exhausted was ok and that it was just part of running a startup. NOT. And -- NOW I SEE THIS but for months and likely years I did not see this- but I HAD DEVELOPED HABITS THAT LET THINGS CONTINUE TO SPIRAL OUT OF CONTROL and every day I was personally contributing to my own anxiety and stress and lack of productivity.
It takes really being HONEST WITH YOURSELF in any area of life-- to see what needs to be fixed. I started analyzing my days to see 1) why was I always behind and NEVER getting close to caught up and 2) why was I seemingly unable to juggle everything I wanted in to a day? -- The more I analyzed a typical day I saw a magnitude of STUPID processes that made no sense.
I'd been giving power to CHAOS.
I talk about this in my vlogs below but on a typical day for example, I'd wake up and put my workout clothes on , ready to conquer and kick A&&. But-- from there, it all went to hell. My day became a garage sale with stuff just all over the place.
Work with me- I'd come in to my kitchen, in my workout clothes and turn on my kitchen computer, that lovely Lenovo that calls to me. Mistake #1. That is the worst thing I can do if I want to get my workout done- I let myself "check email". That plus checking Twitter and all social-- I cannot tell you how many times I am still chugging part of my pre-workout and I look at the clock going OMG $#@(*%&@#(*%^@ IT'S 9:30!! (and that means I probably got up at 7am.....so almost 3 hours GONE........)
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I mentioned above how I finished my workout and took a shower-- you know another thing I did every day- all this in the crazy spirit internally of me thinking that I have to RUSH THROUGH everything (why? Because I always have felt overwhelmed and hence always feel like I have to rush through every single thing I do- my meals, my calls, my workouts you name it....) -- every day I would finish my workout- when I was doing morning fasted cardio at home, and then-- I wouldn't want to delay breakfast because in my mind, my shower and doing my hair and makeup would take "SO LONG" so I'd head right into the kitchen.
PART TWO OF MY COMPUTER SUCKING ME IN. I love that Lenovo all in one in my kitchen because it allows me to stand and work and get away from my office and sitting all day but guess what-- THEN I WAS DOING THIS WORKING RANDOMLY WITH NO SPECIFIC FOCUS when I should be eating breakfast. My breakfast time just blended in with my work day and instead of doing what I used to do-- TAKE TIME FOR ME to sit down with NO MUSIC Or distractions on and read my daily devotions and have prayer and meditation time, instead...I'd TELL MYSELF IN MY HEAD that I'd do that in a second....and then work would suck me in, NO WAIT, I WOULD ALLOW MYSELF TO GET DISTRACTED WITH WORK AND NOT DO FIRST THINGS FIRST.
Cleary I need this shirt.
Do you see how frazzled my MORNINGS WERE? By NOON usually- I am still in my sweaty workout clothes, feeling behind the gun, totally stressed, upset that I now have a call at 1pm and will be booked until 6pm-- then freaking out because I realize that 10 things are due like an hour ago.
Instead of facing my day and facing all the random little things that added up to make my days so insanely full of stress and anxiety, I just kept getting a worse attitude about them. I got upset about my lack of hitting my fitness goals. I'd focus on everything I did not get done. I'd focus on how tired I felt. I'd focus on how stressed I felt and I'd focus on how nothing was changing. Do you see the problem here?? ;-)
Why am I happy to share this?? BECAUSE I REALLY BROKE THROUGH...I REALLY FINALLY HAD A HUGE HUGE HUGE big massive eye opening mind exploding OMG MOMENT-- where I saw everything I was not doing and all the changes I COULD make-- that would change everything.
am obsessed with this show now by the way. Suits FTW.
I realized that I had been doing that thing-- that thing where you make excuses vs making changes. I hated seeing that in myself but I am so glad I did. Two big things hit me like a ton of bricks:
- My attitude about things (how much work I had to do every day, what fitness goals I still have not accomplished, etc.) was increasingly adding more stress and anxiety to my days which then caused me to dread and fear the very things I wanted to attack and conquer. (I'm using strong words like attack and conquer simply to make a point....I ended up AVOIDING taking action on things because I alone had painted those things to be BAD in my head vs. AWESOME. Attitude makes a huge huge huge difference.)
- 95% of the things that were causing me the most stress were due to my own habits or lack of change. This means that because I finally had the lights on and was seeing all of these things and these habits CLEARLY and OBJECTIVELY, wow, I suddenly saw I CAN FIX THINGS. And not just fix things like wow holy heck THE FUTURE WILL BE MAGNIFICENTLY DIFFERENT NOW.
We've all heard this adage a hundred times right? But really if you are honest with yourself you will see-- QUITE OFTEN, THE THINGS THAT UPSET US THE MOST IN OUR LIVES CAN BE SIGINFICANTLY ALTERED....BY US. BY OUR ATTITUDE. BY US MAKING CHANGES IN OURSELVES.....NOT BITCHING ABOUT OUTSIDE CIRCUMSTANCES AND OTHER PEOPLE.
Do you know how such a few simple tweaks in my daily schedule will make a huge impact?
- When I get up now in the morning, I will not turn on that computer. I will go right to the gym and do my thing and not feel guilty about being there.
- I will TAKE TIME TO STRETCH after my workouts. Always rushed through this for the past many years -- because I felt I needed to hurry up and get home and get to work. Guess what-- not stretching CAUSED MY CALVES INJURY that had me not able to workout normally for close to 6 months. HELLO.
- When I am done at the gym, I will come home and take my shower, do my morning skincare routine (that had of course taken a back seat because I felt I had to RUSH TO GET TO THE OFFICE), get dressed, put an outfit on and some makeup and then...
- Have breakfast -- without checking the news online without emailing and starting to work at the same time. I'll have my prayer and meditation time each morning because what could be more important than that investment in my own well-being??
- THEN I start work and when I start work, I will NOT MULTI=TASK. I will face my work projects with a HECK YES attitude vs. OMG I DO NOT WANT TO DO THIS attitude. My procrastination tendencies will change. I will be more productive because I am in control and because I choose to be.
Guess what? There is a difference between LIKING THE IDEA of something (I'd love to reach my goal weight.. I'd love to finally pay off my debt..) and DECIDING to forge a plan to make that IDEA a reality. I have been sadly, more on the former side than the latter but that's all changing now. This past year, and I will share these lessons and changes with you I swear-- this year has brought MORE CHANGE AND GROWTH IN ME THAN....really in my whole life. It's been awesome. But I'm just getting warmed up.
I know why I am here on this earth. I know what I am meant to be doing and it's far bigger that what I have allowed myself to do thus far. I wasn't ready before- why? Because I had yet to learn these lessons.
I'M READY NOW. I am so ready. Enjoy the ramble-on-a-thon below but one that is full of more LIFE LESSONS you too can learn.
Oh and I talk about the planners in this video-- and EVERYONE has asked me about them. So take a peek:
WHAT? Is that me in non-workout clothes and not wearing all black and wearing a scarf? Yes it is.....lots of change ahead people. I'm also figuring out not one but two new phones that are THANK GOD not Apple. Hence the not looking directly in the camera look on this selfie. ;-) Anyway, I gave double time to this blog post today -- I am scheduling 30 minutes in the future for my blog posts but I felt this one was soooo important and I am soooo fired up that I had to GO DEEP. I hope you enjoyed it.
Now I am off to enjoy some down time - it's freezing with sleet and ice outside so this girl is staying IN today. ;-)
What are your biggest frustrations and....what can you do to take action and change them?? Tomorrow I will post part two of the video. ;-)